Being Gay is a Choice – If Cynthia Nixon Says So

There are politically correct terms that have dominated our culture and then there is the truth and realistic perspectives that the same sinful culture attempts to suppress at any cost. Such is the case with Cynthia Nixon, of Sex and the City fame. In a recent interview with the New York Times, she stated:

“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.”

It’s amazing how a group which promotes a perverse lifestyle will turn on their own, on a dime, if that person deviates from the ideology’s script. Nixon is a famous actress and one of the chief promoters of the LGBT agenda and even she states the obvious – being a homosexual is a choice. Did I miss something? Haven’t we Christians been saying this for a long time? Yet the sympathizers continue to spread the flames and the lies of the gay agenda and Christians are seen as the “two-bit whack jobs” for espousing the truth. So why is it that when Nixon states the obvious, there isn’t as intense a backlash as is usually present against Christians who say the exact same thing? Why do her words legitimize the truth in many people’s eyes and the Bible’s words do not? Interesting and disturbing at the same time, I’d say.

Nixon also noted: “Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”

Please understand, I do not condone homosexuality and neither am I attempting to brush off Cynthia’s sexual orientation or escapades as normal. Neither do I agree with her statement that many people are born gay. Still, I cannot disagree with the truth. And in a measure, she has stated it. The reality is that homosexuality is a choice and that there are bigots within the gay agenda ready to denigrate those that disseminate the truth.

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4 thoughts on “Being Gay is a Choice – If Cynthia Nixon Says So

  1. Interesting post. While I think it is valid to comment on the LGBT’s reaction in regards to a comment made by one of their own, I feel as though Christians are quick to jump on this quote far to easily. As a Christian who struggles with homosexuality, I can definitely say it has never been a choice. Unfortunately, when stories like this come out, I feel as though Christians can often use it to justify their own ignorance regarding the issue.

    • Thank you for reading the post and commenting on it. I have a personal question. When you say that you are a Christian and struggle with homosexuality and that it has “never been a choice”, are you implying that you do not continue to choose to act upon your desires? We all make choices, every single day. One cannot say of an assassin that they were “born that way”. If that were the case, we could not convict murderers, thieves, pedophiles, rapists and drug dealers since their DNA has this “code” embedded in it. Another question: How could God create Adam and Eve (man and woman) and say that that’s His outline for how humanity should procreate and commit to long lasting, “death do us part” relationships and then turn against His own blueprint for creation, now wiring humans to be sexually perverse? That would make God a hypocrite since the Bible states that homosexuals are part of the group that will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. (1 Corinthians 6:9) Using this fallacious argument, the conclusion is that God makes human beings gay in order to exclude them from heaven. That’s nonsensical and totally contrary to who God is. God wills that everyone should be saved eternally and that they live a clean and godly life free from sin. (1 Timothy 2:4)

      In reference to Christians being ignorant on this issue: I find it amazing how intolerant and hostile certain individuals from opposing viewpoints can be towards Christians. If anything we want to help those who are trapped in sin to escape it. We denounce sin because of its dire effects on human beings and how it separates us from our Creator. Please remember that you state that you “struggle” with homosexuality. Obviously, you understand how it is against God’s plan for humanity and how it has negative effects on a person’s health and mind. Yet many take our stance as being bigoted and “homophobic” (which is really a misnomer). Besides, the gay community wants all to accept their lifestyle as “normal” and attempts to silence those that disagree with their positions by patronizing, demonizing and vilifying anyone who dissents.

      In conclusion, if Cynthia Nixon can espouse and communicate her own views, I can certainly do the same without the truth being brushed off as “ignorance”. I hope that you can break free from the bondage of sin and experience all of the liberty that only Jesus can give.

      God Bless.

  2. In response to your questions, for me personally, I never chose to have an attraction to the same sex. In addition, I have made the choice to not pursue the gay lifestyle as my number one priority in my life is my relationship with God. It is by the grace of God alone that I have not fallen into accepting the attraction as an identity and a way of life. It doesn’t mean I haven’t made my mistakes… just as much as I doubt that you will find many straight guys who have never acted out with a girl prior to marriage. Unfortunately, the responses from the church regarding the issue tends to be a complete copout. The ignorant Christians generalize all who struggle with homosexuality and state that we choose not only to act out but also the attraction in and of itself. Perhaps that is not your stance. I hope so. The more common response that is being given is for us who struggle with the attraction should simply not act out on those desires. As a view towards a person sinning or not sinning, that is the correct but easy answer.

    The issue with the churches response is that there is no option for the individual to find love, acceptance, and companionship. God says in Genesis how it is not good for man to be alone… which led to the creation/institution of marriage. I would imagine that most Christians would say that there desire to get married and spend their life with someone is a “natural” desire. In recognition of this desire, the church needs to realize where their stance against homosexuality leaves those who are dealing with it. The only message being delivered by the church, if not hate, is that our religion is condemning homosexuals to a life of isolation and loneliness. No wonder such a message is not received well.

    To be honest, I am guessing our beliefs regarding the issue are for the most part the same and I may have come across as protecting the LGBT view far to strongly. I believe that ANY sexual immorality is a sin. Just as I believe every other sin in 1 Cor.6:9 should be addressed as harshly in the church as homosexuality. In terms of my comments, I am trying to push those in the church to change their paradigm. The homosexual community is never going to agree with the church and the church is and shouldn’t ever compromise the truth of the Bible. That being said, the church needs to recognize that if they ever want to impact the LGBT community for Christ, than their message needs to shift from protecting their stance against homosexuality to loving those individuals just as Christ does. If you ever want to look into this further, check out the book A Bigger World Yet by Tim Timmerman.

    • Thanks for your cordial response. I really appreciate your sincere tone. You’ll understand that on many occasions when a person writes responses and posts, many will misinterpret the intent of the originator. So I’m glad to see that you received my initial response the way I intended.

      First off, you must see the inconsistency in your declarations. You state that you “never chose to have an attraction to the same sex”. Immediately after, you write that you have “made the choice to not pursue the gay lifestyle as my number one priority in my life is my relationship with God.” How can you not choose one and choose the other? Life is full of choices. As a matter of fact, when a person falls into sin it’s not a result of chance or genetic disorders. A person doesn’t become a liar, thief, murderer, fornicator, gossiper, etc. before crossing that moral boundary line many cross in order to practice and abound in such sins and lawlessness. In other words, there must be a catalyst that ushers a person into becoming a practitioner of sin. Yet God gives us the victory only and only if we walk in the Spirit, not satisfying the lusts of the flesh. (Galatians 5:16) It’s the only way to accomplish total defeat of sin, whatever it may be. I just hope it is this way with you too. I understand that the journey isn’t an easy one. Yet Jesus leads us by the hand to total victory in His Name.

      Secondly, categorizing every Christian as “ignorant” and stating that the entire church is spreading a message of “hate” is an erroneous generalization. You’re focusing on a select few in order to justify the homosexual agenda’s hatred of the church, which is rarely identified as such nowadays. What about ministries like Exodus International and Michelle and Marcus Bachmann’s clinic which seek to help those struggling with homosexuality to leave it once and for all? The LGBT community has vilified such entities and absolutely abhors the fact that many have left the gay lifestyle because Christians, the church and such “clinics” have helped them do so. This reality counteracts the LGBT’s vile message. Therefore, they try to suppress it. Isn’t that evil? Besides, I know others that are struggling with homosexuality, just like you, and I do not marginalize them. The true church understands that there are those that genuinely want to escape the grips of sin and do everything they can to minister to their needs.

      Thirdly, if homosexuality is a sin – as you well agree – and isn’t a “natural” desire, then the “loneliness” and “isolation” argument is an illogical and mute point. Sin leaves a huge void in the heart which a sinner is attempting to fill with worldly and temporal pleasures. Getting the society to “accept” such relationships as normal is an imposition of ideology. If the church accepts such an argument, then we’d compromise biblical truth which you state the church “shouldn’t ever compromise”. Yet you contradict yourself again by stating that the church should “shift from protecting their stance against homosexuality…” That’s compromise. I must love my neighbor, but that shouldn’t subvert my denouncing sin as sin. If we don’t denounce sin, we are no longer the salt and light of the world that Jesus spoke of. We’ve become ineffective as Christians at that point. I don’t ever want to reach that juncture. What the LGBT community categorizes as “hate speech” is a biblical message of hope and salvation.

      Lastly, what about the homosexual community respecting the church’s stance on these issues? I understand that we need to showcase love, but not at the expense of staying silent while others, such as yourself, are struggling with homosexuality and are feeling the repercussions, physical and mental, of such acts.

      My friend, I hope and pray that the Lord will give you the victory over such temptations and desires. I will pray for you and hope that your testimony will glorify Jesus’ name. If you wish to continue this dialogue, please drop me a line at

      God Bless.

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